Over the years I have had the privilege of helping teenagers with self esteem issues.
I always say and will say again here in this blog that self esteem is something we need to learn. We are not born with it. Irritatingly it doesn’t seem to be taught in schools either.
Young people are particularly shocked when I tell them this, as they assume everyone else is more attractive, more clever and interesting than they are.
I feel very passionate about helping the younger generation basically to help them avoid some of the pitfalls of life. Obviously there are many situations in life that are unfortunately necessary for the young to go through, however there are many situations that can be avoided or managed much better.
Teaching young people to have true self confidence can help them deal with bullying, sexual harassment, gender issues, social anxieties as well as being assertive and having a voice when necessary.
It makes me sad when I hear of young people with lots of hopes and dreams who feel the need to drink alcohol to excess and take drugs to fit in. One of my 19 year old clients told me last month that it was expected amongst her peers to take cocaine and drink alcohol to the point of oblivion. Both these actions she wasn’t happy to do but felt obliged to say yes to stay with the ‘in crowd’.
My heart sank when she also told me what was expected of her sexually too. Such a lovely girl and already feeling unsure of herself to the point that she has to say yes when she wants to say no.
And all of this type of coercing between her so called friends was with the influence of alcohol and drugs.
My lovely young client is a beautiful and talented girl who deserves to like herself and embrace the true wondrous being she is. That is what is great about my work – I help people feel the sensations of calm and confidence while still remaining humble and intuitive.
My thoughts now being a new mother myself as to how to raise my triplet boys so they have confidence and courage to stand up for themselves is there daily. So seeing young clients even more so now fills my heart with a drive to help this age bracket more.
As you know I don’t profess to be teetotal in fact not at all and I always say having a hangover now and again is completely acceptable as far as I am concerned. However some of my young clients who are 16 are drinking a hell of a lot of alcohol and this is a worry.
A doctor once told me that when a child starts drinking excessive alcohol in their teenage years the brain hasn’t fully developed at this stage. In other words the brain cannot deal with too much alcohol and addictions can start to appear. The main culprit of this is not feeling good enough and alcohol can give that instant fix (as it does with adults too) to feel better.
I know in Europe children are given small amounts of wine with their meal to learn how to drink in a paced way which I think is the logical way of educating the young to drink alcohol.
I know for a fact that children who are told alcohol is bad and evil tend to want to drink it as a form of rebellion and fascination, which can end up in disaster for the child and the family.
I am not suggesting I have the answers but I can clearly see how alcohol dependency can occur. It just takes a few self esteem issues as a teenager and a little bit of alcohol mixed in there to gain pseudo confidence and then an emotional habit occurs.
On a lighter note, I am cooking a red Thai curry tonight for Ian and myself. I am getting myself prepared for the night feeds for my 3 month old boys, so no wine for me!
Enjoy your day and I look forward to writing another blog soon x